I was happy to see this post, as I have always done the “thank you” card thing when interviewed. My boss says that IS one of the reasons they did in fact give me a try at Christmas 2014. She said out of 50 interviews, myself and 2 others did this gesture.
Attitude really DOES make a difference and while it does not stop discrimination, it makes one rise above it.
Just a thought, ‘Potty mouth’ is in fact grounds for dismissal in some workplaces. I think it makes us look less educated and less desirable in a work environment, so that might be taken into consideration when bandying about the vernacular for male-bovine fecal matter or acts of copulation, etc…..
After all, that constructive ‘angry’ emotion should be used to make us BETTER…. and not contribute to already negative feelings from others. If *I* could clean up MY act , then Anyone can.
On the JOB front, we have ultimate control in helping ourselves. We are the deciding factor in how others will see us. No one would say one doesn’t have a right to be bitter or depressed with what may have happened to us, but it is our RESPONSE-ABILITY to not let it bring us down to a level which is self degrading ever more so.
I know in the HQ of the company *I* work for, the CEO himself is a really bad cusser. In fact he also intersperses his sentences with swear words all the time.
BUT… *I* am NOT the boss, and I know what *I* am allowed is different than he. In So. Cal, depending on the job it can vary. but in Retail, dealing with the general public, we are told not to use bad lingo. Using those things I sited actually gets people to laugh, and breaks the tension in the repair department or when a customer is having a rough day etc.
It’s not a ‘fear’ of the words in my case, I cussed all the time. But here it got me nowhere, no job, few friends and was not constructive in getting things I needed to do done. I know in the back of House (Stockroom, we do let loose with an expletive, like when I almost fell off a tall ladder and said “OH S**T!!!” as I hung onto a top shelf (Really!) and a couple of guys came to save my behind from a 12′ fall. THAT is different.
I still say ‘oh, Damn!” or whatever in BOH, but out on the sales floor when I drop something or so on, I’d say: “Ooooooh, TURKEY TROT!” and people around me get a good laugh and we move on.
I have pals in Aberdeen, and they heard me in my cussing days and asked if I was ‘a reincarnated sailor’…. And if enough people lived a life of love and harmony – we could change the world. Be careful what you wish for – anger, bitterness, resentment usually comes back to you. I myself prefer to spread peace and love wherevery I go and remain faithful that my God, who created this place, will have the last word. See, I’ve read the Book, and I know the ending. God wins. And everything that happens in between doesn’t have eternal significance. Only He does. It’s easier for me to let Him be God.